Do You Think It’s Fair to Pay What You Weigh When You Fly?


Pay What You Weigh on Airlines

There have been a lot of rumors circulating about airlines starting to charge customers by their weight due to the increased cost of airline fuel. With the increased costs, I get the fact that airlines are trying to find any and every way to turn a profit, but THIS idea (or even the fact it is an idea) has by FAR gone TOO far!

Our culture is already obsessed with being thin! We are reminded of our inadequacies on every newstand, every fashion show, and every talk show telling us 15 ways to lose 20 pounds in 2 days. As a woman with some junk in the trunk, I find it completely APPALLING that airlines are thinking about stooping to this new low.

Pay What You Weigh on Airlines

According to Yahoo News, Samoan Airlines has already started to charge passengers by their weight. Customers are required to guesstimate their weight and the weight of their bags. Then upon arriving at the airport they and their luggage are weighed to confirm their estimate! Granted this is an airline in Samoa, but rumors of this being tossed around by US airlines has been circulating the airwaves for the past few years.

Can you imagine it in the United States? You walk up to the airport they ask you for your tickets, if you are checking any bags, and if you can stand on that nifty little scale right next to the check in counter? This is one woman that would definitely NOT be happy!

I wouldn’t be happy because at the moment I am a bigger gal.  I would be angry because of the inferences that it would be saying to larger passengers. By charging more expensive fairs for heavier passengers it would push even more travelers out of the market (meaning they couldn’t afford to fly), and I don’t know about you but that would tell me that they don’t care if they get my business or not.

It would be the indirect way for airlines to say “lose some weight fatty” if you want to be able to travel this year! How could you not take that personally. It’s already uncomfortable sitting in super small seats that only people with a size six butt fits in comfortably. (which for the record, I am sitting in right now as I write this post)

So, Crunchy readers what are your thoughts? For clarification we are talking about paying what you weigh when you still fit in your own seat, not buying an extra seat if you are a size that requires two seats to fit you.

Would you be comfortable jumping on a scale during the check in process of your next flight? Would you rather pay a little bit extra per ticket to avoid the pay what you weight some airlines are considering?

 

Why You Should Be Ticked About the Passage of the Monsanto Protection Act!

Monsanto Protection Act

Normally we don’t cover political topics here at Crunchy Frugalista, but this is a topic that you should really know about. You need to know why you should be TICKED about the new law: The Monsanto Protection Act!

First, a little background. For those that don’t know Monsanto is a huge company that helped to bring about genetically modified food, aka GMOs. GMOs are these really nasty critters that basically have built in pesticides in their DNA. (over simplified, but it’s the just of these nasty hybrids)

Monsanto Protection act

No Known Risks?

While the FDA, is telling us

“The agency is not aware of any information showing that foods derived by these new methods differ from other foods in any meaningful or uniform way.” In contrast, an internal FDA report stated, “The processes of genetic engineering and traditional breeding are different and according to the technical experts in the agency, they lead to different risks.”

Governments in Europe have BANNED the sale and growth of genetically modified foods. They realize the dangers that these crops pose not only to our health, but to cross contaminating our “organic” crops as well. If Europe gets it, why don’t we?

What the Monsanto Protection Act Protects? Guess What It’s Not YOU!

Yesterday, the Agricultural Appropriations Bill was signed into law. In this great new law is a section some are calling “Monsanto Protection Act”. Basically it takes away our right to sue companies, like Monsanto, that make genetically modified seeds if we become sick because of their products or other products that have been cross contaminated by GMOs. 

According to RT.com:

The rider, which is officially known as the Farmer Assurance Provision, has been derided by opponents of biotech lobbying as the “Monsanto Protection Act,” as it would strip federal courts of the authority to immediately halt the planting and sale of genetically modified (GMO) seed crop regardless of any consumer health concerns.

That means that even if they find that health problems are occurring, the federal courts don’t have the right to immediately stop the sale or making of GMO seeds! There is already so much junk in our food from lobbyists with legislators in their pockets that it is even more terrifying that we may have no recourse if these awful seeds make our families sick.

As a mom, I am beyond TICKED that this bill slipped silently through Congress. My daughter has severe food allergies, and it’s sickening that we can’t even trust our government to protect our children. As she has gotten sicker, her allergies are getting worse, and if we as parents can’t tell what’s in our food how can we keep our kids healthy?

The part that bites my buns is the fact that the government is taking away our CHOICE! I choose to know what is in my foods. Parents should have the right to CHOOSE healthy products for our kids. Because no labeling is required on GMOs, and we can’t stop the making of them they are binding our hands as parents!

Organics Might Be a Thing of the Past?!

Right now we choose to eat more organically because we know that they have to be regulated to get that label. With the widespread pandemic of cross-contamination of GMO seeds even organic farms might one day be a thing of the past, and this crunchy mama is NOT happy about it! It’s becoming harder and harder to find products in our food supply that haven’t eaten, been grown around, or contaminated by genetically modified crops.

Food Democracy

Crunchy Calls YOU to Stand Up

If you are as peeved as I am about this, please take the time to join Food Democracy Now, and sign a petition letting our legislators know we are fed up!

You can sign the petition on the Food Democracy Website. You can also copy a letter there, and send it to your own representative for your state!

What do you think about the passing of the Monsanto Protection Act?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sources:

http://rt.com/usa/monsanto-congress-silently-slips-830/

http://action.fooddemocracynow.org/sign/stop_the_monsanto_protection_act/

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/priya-advani/effects-of-genetically-modified-food_b_967667.html

Help Rehab Addict Save a House!

Rehab Addict

UPDATE: We Did it! Here’s a message from Nicole (Rehab Addict). Demo has been stopped!

DEMOLITION HAS BEEN HALTED:) HIP, HIP HOORAY!!!! HIP, HIP, HOORAY!!!!! THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR ALL YOUR HELP!!! STAY TUNED….(now I can go back to bed:))

It was my extreme pleasure last week to meet Nicole Curtis from Rehab Addict at an open house in Minneapolis last week! We were truly honored to see some of her amazing work in person, and I have to tell you that the passion she has for restoring homes is truly inspiring.

Luckily for you guys, just for Crunchy readers there is an exclusive interview coming up with Nicole so you can learn more about what she is all about.

Rehab Addict

In the meantime, Nicole needs our help! Nicole is in the business of saving historic homes from demolition. She takes homes others wouldn’t even touch and turns them into amazing homes with great character and personality. She reuses as much as possible in these home and shows you how to do it on her DIY show “Rehab Addict”.

Here’s a letter from Nicole:

The City of Minneapolis has authorized the demolition of the home at 2637 Emerson Ave North—I was told that there would be no demolitions for a few months until some things were put in order with the city. Then a backhoe was delivered to this property. I would gladly take this home and restore it-but have been told no. I have been in the home and compared to the Dollar House-it’s Turnkey. It costs the taxpayers at least 15k to demo a house – North MPLS already has an estimated 450 vacant lots. Please start screaming with me. I do not want to see this house go down.
Nikki

 

 

How can you help?

Send an email to Don Samuels – Ward 5 Minneapolis City Council:

http://www.minneapolismn.gov/ward5/contact-ward5

Post on the following pages:

City of Minneapolis Facebook Page:

https://www.facebook.com/cityofminneapolis

Mayor of Minneapolis RT Rybak’s Facebook Page

https://www.facebook.com/people/RT-Rybak/732302078

Even if you don’t live in the Minneapolis area, let’s show Nicole we support the great things she does to restore and preserve history. These houses are built back up to their former glory rather than adding more garbage to the landfill.

Please remember to be respectful when contacting to support Nicole and her great cause!

Asperger’s Austism Does Not Cause Violence

Autism Speaks

I have really tried to not comment on the tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary school. It was a horrific event and everyone has their own way/need of mourning.

Having said that, I am really appalled at the news media at the moment. I understand the human’s basic need to understand why such horrible things happen. I understand the media’s need to explain why this kid was being described as “a little off.” What I don’t get is the IRRESPONSIBLE media that keeps pointing out that the shooter had Asperger’s, a form of autism, and leaving America to develop their own conclusion.

Autism Speaks

My god daughter has Asperger’s, and I can tell you from personal experience that she is one of the most kind and gentle kids I have ever met. I am truly honored to watch her beat this condition that makes the world around her seem so difficult and confusing at times.

Aspy kids tend to seem a little bit off. They don’t understand the social “norms” and how to behave in society. That just means they are usually socially ackward. That doesn’t mean that they are going to pick up a high powered rifle and shoot innocent children.

According to CBS news, over 63% of the kids with Asperger’s have experienced some form of bullying. My god daughter is included in this number. This bullying usually leads to self harm and hatred, not the harming of others.

What got me to break my silence on this issue was an article I read from CNN. It’s an interview with the shooter’s barber. (Because they are always the expert of people, right?!?)

In the article, the barber is quoted as saying,

“…..I’d try to joke with him. He wouldn’t even look at me.” He then continues to say,

“I wish I would’ve killed him then……Or he should have killed himself a long time ago.”

I am beyond angered that CNN would put this in print. Putting aside the tragedy for a moment, so basically this barber is saying that because this kid was socially off that there is something so wrong with him that it must’ve caused the Sandy Hook tragedy.

It’s mob mentality like this causes us to learn the WRONG lessons from such horrific events. It leads people to think if someone is socially off, they MUST be plotting to gun down an entire school. It’s thinking like this that leads to bullying of innocent children with autism. Where does it all end?

Naming and Shaming

Well CNN, and the rest of the media blaring the shooter’s Autism, SHAME SHAME on you. Autism wasn’t the problem the shooter had. We may NEVER know what caused this tragedy to happen, but quit spewing the word Asperger’s Autism out there for any idiot to grab a hold of.

If we have learned nothing from this horrific event, it’s that we need to hold our children close and PROTECT them. Continuing to give a WRONG and ireesponsible depiction of children with Autism, just puts MORE children at risk, and haven’t enough innocent children died already?

To learn more about Autistic and how to support children have Asperger’s Autism, please visit the following websites:

Instagram: Hide Your Kids, Hide Your Wife, Hide Your Photos?

Hide Your Kids

In the world of social media, you know you have to protect your information. Well, as much as you can anyway. As someone that uses social media religiously, you get used to the CONSTANT changes, a la Facebook, across the social media platforms. What I wasn’t prepared for was for them to tell me they were going to start stealing my images. (It makes it all better if they tell me they are stealing them right?)

Hide Your Kids

Hide Your Kids, Hide Your Wife, Hide Your Photos?

What the heck am I talking about, you ask yourself? According to Cnet.com, unless current Instagram users delete their photos BEFORE 1/17/13, users are giving permission for Instagram to sell your photos for commercial work. That’s right they are going to SELL YOUR PHOTOS! The worst part is if you don’t delete your photos before the deadline, there is NO WAY that you can NOT give permission. As of 1/17/13, your photos are their photos as far as Instagram and Facebook are concerned!

Think it just affects bloggers and social media mavens? Think this is just something that affects bloggers? WRONG! Just think about all those cute family photos in your account. How would you feel if Susie became the new poster child for her favorite cereal brand, WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING IT. Yup, your kids mug slapped all over merchandise across the country and you were never asked permission. Don’t know about you, but that creeps me out.

Your Pictures for All the World to See?

What about that uber cute picture of Sally on her 3rd birthday or those pictures of your trip to Hawaii? Yep, they are ALL going to be fair game for the commercial world to use. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want my children’s pictures available for the world to pay for. (See above creepy remark)

This whole thing is really sad, because it’s no longer about the user experience. It’s about the bottom line; the almighty dollar! Ever since Facebook became a publicly offered company, their user experience has gone downhill. Now with their acquisition of Instagram, they are going to have more people jump ship than the R.M.S Titanic.

Instagram was the neat place that people  could share just a snippet of their lives. A place that with little effort you could share amazingly inspiring photos. It was a great way to instantly share your photos with friends and family that followed you. It alleviated the obligation to email everyone those photos of little Jimmy’s birthday.

Abandon Ship, and Save Those Photos

Well, I have to say that I am one of those Instagram users that will be heading for the life boats, and this gal is taking her photos with her! Have lots of photos that you LOVE on Instagram? Here is a step by step method to make sure you get copies of these photos before you delete them off of your account.

1. Head to the Instagram app on your phone.

Instagram is going to sell your photos

2. Hit the picture that looks like an index card (mine is in the bottom bar in the far right corner).

 

3. Once in your profile, hit the individual picture.

4. In the lower right corner, hit the elipses (three dots).;

5. Click share.

Instagram

6. Then share your picture to yourself. I suggest email or messaging it to your phone. That way you know it’s not going to get used on Facebook etc.

7. Repeat until all your pictures are stored, and then delete away.

If that doesn’t work, you can always opt to share to Facebook, click on the actual photo, then right click and save to your PC.

Remember the deadline is 1/17/13! Make sure to delete your photos before then.

How do you feel about this change? Will you be deleting your photos?

10 Ways a Physical Therapist is Like a Terrorist

Physical Therapy

During my long route to recovery, I must’ve missed the memo that physical therapist really stood for personal terrorist. Being all cooped up in the house over the last six months must’ve kept me out of the loop! Well, I definitely learned that message with first hand experience today with my first trip to physical therapy. Let us begin explaining this fun trip by looking at the definition of the word terrorist.

 

ter·ror·ist
/ˈterərist/
Noun
A person who terrorizes or frightens others.

Physical Therapy
Though my therapist was an awesome guy, with a wicked sense of humor I can assure the thought of a physical therapist does in fact frighten me. Let’s see exactly what 10 ways a physical therapist is like a terrorist.

1. They are experts in using the Vulcan death grip, and  then expect you to talk.

2. You follow their demands or they make you pay for it later.

3. They pretend to be your friend and then hit you where it hurts.

4. Just the sight of them causes instant fear and panic.

Physical Therapy is Like Terrorism

5. If demands aren’t met, they aren’t afraid to take hostages.

6. You never see the same one twice, to keep their identities safe.

7. They both tell you if you want what’s good for you, you will do as you are told.

8. You hate them both at first, but spend enough time with them and you begin to suffer from Stockholm Syndrome.

9.  After the pain subsides, they both leave you begging for mercy.

10. And finally, after you give them what they want, they still expect you to pay them.

 

 

What’s the difference between a therapist and a terrorist?
You can negotiate with a terrorist
~~ Rob the therapist

 

 

What do you do when your doctor rocks, but their billing department STINKS?!

Problems with billing office

Ever since moving to Indiana, my family has been blessed with an awesome family physician. She’s kind, caring, and understanding. Her entire office staff is absolutely amazing. She’s one of those doctors that you don’t mind spilling your dirty little health secrets too for fear of being judged. Yep, she’s that awesome!

Money Down the Toilet

We Heart our Doctor

We have been seeing her off and on for about three years now, and everything has been great. That was until recently. Don’t get me wrong, I still LOVE our family physician. Where my problem lies is with their billing department. They are the WORST people I have ever had to work with, and no that’s not because they want my money. It’s because they want the money that I DON’T OWE THEM. Let’s paint a hypothecial scenario to help you understand. Bear with me.

Crunchy sees the doctor three times in 2011. Crunchy’s medical plan says she owes about $50 for all three visits. Crunchy gets a bill for Dr. Y for almost $400 and asked to agree to a payment plan. Crunchy is in the middle of moving, so she figures the billing office must know what they are doing, right?! WRONG!

Billing Department = Spawn of Satan?

For fear of boring you to tears, that is the jist of the problem. I made over $225 worth of payments to this doctor’s office, when in reality I only owed them $50.45. My insurance company understands that. I understand that, but the only people that don’t seem to understand that is the billing office. EVERY SINGLE TIME I call, I am cut off or not listened too. All they keep telling me is that “we don’t see a credit owed.”

Problems with billing office

One time they told me the amount owed was due to deductible, which is why I believed their lie. Next time, they had no record of my calling at all. Then I was told that the claims got kicked back because they didn’t have a current copy of insurance card. Yet another rep told me they NEVER send claims with copies of the insurance cards.

Just writing this post, my blood pressure is starting to rise. Here’s a little background on me. I used to work for a health insurance company. It’s not like I don’t know the lingo or understand how claims processing works. That’s why I am so adamant on making sure I don’t pay more than I owe. (Granted this time I made a big booboo)

My Insurance Company ROCKS!

On  a positive note, I am so lucky that my husband’s insurance company is great. He has union insurance, and they have made countless phone calls to try and get this settled for me. They are always amazingly polite, and go the extra mile. Those folks all deserve raises. I  love it when my insurance department is willing to go three rounds with this stupid doctor’s office.

You want to know the funny part though? The doctor’s billing office was even rude to the insurance company! They cut her off and wouldn’t even let her to compare dates of service. All they kept saying was “we don’t see a credit owed.” (Well, there’s your problem genius!)

Insurance Company Fights

Now I am in a pickle. I absolutely love our doctor, and good doctors are really hard to come by. What do I do now? Do I try to find a new doctor because her billing department is rude and uncouth or do I suck it up and continue to fight to get my money back, but just keep better records of my explanation of benefits and payments?

Have you ever had a dispute with your billing that seemed to take years off your life. What would you do if you were in my situation?

 

 

 
Photo credit: Thomas Hawk / Foter / CC BY-NC

Tis the Season for Pain in the Butt Bad Neighbors

Bad Neighbors

You guys know my neighbors are not my favorite people in the world, aside from one of my next door neighbors on the left. Well, the two to the right of me seem to be drinking the same kool-aid. I’ve already told you guys about the great adventure we had with the bully, the cops, and the animal control officer. (That’s sounds like a bad soap opera). Today I found out today that my neighbor RIGHT next to me thinks it’s ok to use his golf cart to cut through part of my yard and use the end of my driveway to access the road.

No Cranky Sally Here

First off, I am not one of those property line crazies that yells at random kids and pets if they set a foot on my property. I am usually pretty easy going. Where I get my panties in a wad is when my neighbors are either rude to my family and I or they go out of their way to ignore us. I get really cranky when on top of all that they  think it’s ok to use my property as a short cut. This guy almost has to go out of his way to get to my driveway. To show you my point, let’s reference my bad ass drawing skills below.

Bad Neighbors

As you can see by my AWESOME diagram, my neighbor has many ways that he can get to the road other than cutting across part of my yard and my driveway. Sure it’s a straight shot from his barn to the road the way he is going, but turning just 5 degrees to the right he could stay on HIS property.

In all honestly, it’s probably more the fact they have been jerk faces since we moved in a year ago that bugs me. Or maybe it’s the complete lack of consideration that irks me.  I like to the think the average adult wouldn’t think it is ok to cut across someone’s property in a golf cart, but hey maybe that’s just me.

My Momma Raised Me Right

I have cut through a yard or two in my life, but my momma raised me right. There is no way I would cut through a yard on a bicycle let alone at GOLF CART. That doesn’t even count the fact this guy is an ADULT not a kid just being silly cutting through a yard. Grrrr. I just wonder why these people seem to feel so entitled. They call it “their” cul-de-sac and tell my kids to go inside when they play. Now is it “their” portion of my driveway too? When does it end?

FORGIVE AND FORGET OR GET CRAFTY?

So help me out here Crunchy peeps.Talking to my neighbors does nothing, been there done that. Do I suck it up and be the better person or do I strategically plant some great looking garden statues laced with nails to convince this guy my driveway is not free road access?

Have you ever had a tiff with your neighbors? How did you handle it? What do you think I should do?

When your school won’t stop bullying?! A Call to Arms!

School lets bullying happen

You guys know that we have had problems with bullying in our neighborhood. Thank goodness for us it seems that it has died down for the time being, but I was really sad to hear my friend Sadie at Slapdash Mom was having similar problems.

The school year started off ok for her daughter, but very quickly so began having problems with bullies. Before the first quarter of the school year, Sadie had had a few visits to the principals office after NUMEROUS phone calls to plead for help. You know what she got? A big fat nothing!

We can’t prove it happened. No one else saw it. This is the blatant bull shit that she was fed by the school system. Anywhere her daughter turned she was getting bullied because, guess what, the bullies figured out they could get away with it.

Maybe when kids “snap” it’s not because they are “weak” and can’t handle it. It’s because the school system chooses to ignore the symptoms of bullying, sounds like my neighbors down the street.

As if it ignoring it wasn’t bad enough, Sadie’s daughter had an incident on the playground. Her and another child got into a verbal argument, and then end result was a swift kick in the nuts. You may not think it was the “right” thing for her to do, but you know what if I had dealt with everything that kid has I probably would have done it too!

School lets bullying happen

So what happened? She rode off doing a victory dance? Nope! The school system WROTE HER UP! Not only did they write her up, but they classified it as “sexual assault”. Let’s visit our dear friend Webster for a minute:

Illegal sexual contact that usually involves force upon a person without consent or is inflicted upon a person who is incapable of giving consent.

 

I am not a lawyer, but the whole intent about “sexual” assault is the nature in which someone is touched, not where. What if the bully had punched her, and the swift kick was the only means of escape. She wasn’t try to make an advance at the kid she would be trying to get away!

After a two second investiagtion they took the word of a gaggle of bullies, that she kicked him unprovoked, and now she is going to be disciplined. From my experience with my own kids, most bullies are VERY sly and cunning. It’s honest kids like ours that get caught because they just don’t think that way. Her only mistake was letting her feelings out on the playground in front of a lot of witnesses.

What would you do if your school failed to protect your child? Have you had problems like this before?

Let’s join forces and let the school superintendent know that bullying is NOT acceptable whether it’s in plain sight or behind closed doors!

 

 

How to Handle Drunks Around your Kids: You Said What in Front of my Kids???

How to talk to your kids about drinkin

 

How to handle drunks around your kidsSometimes I really don’t know how to explain “grownups” to my kids. Grownups are so supposed to be exactly that grownup, right?! Well, let’s just say that nothing beats a real life education when you are trying to talk to your kids about alcohol ladies and gentleman. Let me tell you a story.

Last night was the opening game for our local hockey team, the Fort Wayne Komets. My kids have become avid local team fans since we moved here four years ago, so I thought we would treat them to family fun night. What I didn’t account for was our kids hearing every swear in the book.

Ok, confession time. I am NOT a saint when it comes to cussing in front of my kids. I never have been. I swear worse than a trucker on a CB. (Not a fact I am proud of, but hey it’s me) Anyway, it’s not that my kids haven’t HEARD cussing before, but I don’t go around public making a beligerant ass of myself. (Well, I at least hope not)

We were sitting there all nice and happy watching the game. My 9 year old was screaming loud enough to make any avid hockey fan proud, and then we started hearing some shouting from the first row. It appeared that a few people had been slightly too indulgent with the beer, and were swearing at a guy that asked them to be quiet. They kept going on and on and on. My husband stayed out of it because they were a few rows down, and seemed to be quietly down.

Boy was I wrong! After someone got an usher, and they returned to their seats ,which of course were RIGHT in front of my family the trouble continued. That girls butt had How to talk to your kids about drinkinnot hit the seat before she started cussing and harassing the child in front of her. Oh that was it, it was on like donkey kong!

Despite how mad I was, I was proud I did NOT cuss. (Yeah me!) I did ask the chick to watch her fricking mouth. My nine year old was sitting right behind her wide eyed in shock from all the things this chick was saying. She whipped her head around, and asked me “what did you say?” I nicely let her know that I didn’t stutter and that my kids were right behind her.

At this point, my kids were really upset so we ended up leaving. In the car I asked my kids if they had any questions about what happened, and we explained that is why you DON”T drink too much alcohol in public. Then I asked my kids how they thought I handled the situation. My son’s reply “You rocked it mom!”

Have you ever had something like this happen around your kids? How did you handle it? I would love you to share your story so other readers can learn how to handle dumb butts around their kids too!

Do you get drunk around your kids? Do you allow others to drink around them? I would love to hear your thoughts!

TSA touched you where?!

TSA Touched you Where

TSA Touched you WhereLast Monday, I took my son to the airport to fly down to see my parents. I am happy to say he got down there safely and is having a blast, but that wasn’t before he got to watch Mommy get violated by TSA at the airport!

NOT SURE WHICH IS WORSE, MR. BOOT OR TSA!

You guys have already met Mr. Boot. He and I have a love/hate relationship, and after my dry clothes strip search at the Indianapolis Airport, I am not sure whom I have a distaste for more, him or TSA.

You see, because I was in a wheel chair, thanks to Mr. Boot, I couldn’t go through the metal detector. I didn’t even think anything of it. They ushered my kids through the detector with my friend, and they waited on the other side. That’s when the fun began.

YOU CAN ASK FOR A PRIVATE SCREENING

They wheeled me into this plastic semi circle thing, and asked me if I could stand. Sure, why not. I figured it would make this all go faster. It did that alright, but it also gave TSA more access to grope me. (Some how they seem to think touching your boobs with the back of their hands makes it less ackward)

So imagine me standing up, with a gigantic boot on my right foot, hands in the air while a female TSA office whips out gloves and feels me up and down. Telling me that I can ask for a “private screening”. Um, no I think I will pass, but thanks for the offer.

DOES TSA REIMBURSE FOR THERAPY?

My kids’ eyes were about the size of saucers. Bayla, my youngest, asked “What are they doing to my mommy??” It was fun trying to explain why this was ok for a stranger to touch you there when she had been taught otherwise. I think there might be some need for therapy for her down the road.

This whole ordeal took about 15 minutes. I felt like a freak on parade. Even got to get tested for gunshot residue, I think THAT was my favorite part.

My friend wasted no time asking me if I was going to recover from the experience. Haha, very funny. At least something good came out of it. My friend was having a spectacular time telling everyone how this hot TSA agent felt me up. (Sigh)

THERE HAS GOT TO BE ANOTHER WAY!

All joking aside, what it really made me realize that there HAS to be another way to search people that are in wheelchairs or disabled. I only had to go through this because of my injury. I can’t imagine being permanently disabled and having to go through this “fun” search every time you go through an airport. I know keeping our country “safe” is important, but I don’t think searches like this are doing much other than making people uncomfortable.

What other ways can you come up with, because honestly I have no suggestions. One thing I can tell you though is when I go back to get my son, I am hobbling my happy butt through the metal detector, so Helga doesn’t have a chance to frisk me up again!

Colorado Batman Shooting: What Is WRONG With this World?

Batman Shooting

Batman Shooting

A HORRIBLY SAD DAY IN COLORADO

Sometimes I wonder what is WRONG with this world! Last night during the premier of the new Batman movie a masked gunman threw tear gas and began shooting movie goers at a Aurora, Colorado theater. 12 people were killed and more were injured.

“She saw the exit door open and something was thrown across the screen, and then shooting started,” she told local NBC affiliate 9News television. “It was chaos.”

MOVIE TURNS INTO CHAOS

To add to the confusion, the gunman started shooting during a shooting scene during the film which further added to the confusion. This is truly a tragic event, and I am not sure what the heck people are turning into.

“Shortly after that we heard people screaming. Then they came on PA system and said everyone needed to get out,” the witness said.

I will admit I am a bit naive when it comes to violence, and such, but it is really terrifying that you might just lose your life for things like going to the movies. There are already so many ways that people die every day, why do some violent idiots have to make every day activities no longer safe?

THINKING OF THE VICTIMS AND THEIR LOVED ONES

My heart is just saddened at this travesty, and I my sympathy is with all the loved ones of those that were killed or injured. Please take a moment and leave a comment for the loved ones of those killed in today’s awful killings. Let’s keep them in our thoughts while they are trying to process the horrid thing that happened today.

Source: Reuters

Let’s Talk Serious about Women’s Underwear

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Now that title has your attention, I have to tell you that there is a severe malady plaguing our local departments stores. It’s called big buttasaurus syndrome . It’s caused by too many nights out on the town, too little exercise, and too big of booties to fit in the regular department store underwear! I have to sadly admit that I suffer from big buttasaurus syndrome. Yesterday I found this out, and I was devestated!

Ok, so I am being a little dramatic, but shopping for underwear really made me think. Why the heck does any woman of size have to shop at Lane Bryant (don’t get me wrong love their stuff), while a lot of stores carry XXXXL men’s underwear? What the snuff is up with that? Before I go on, let’s look at a few figures.

According to WebMd:

  • The average American woman wears a size 12-14 dress size
  • Current Fashion Models are an average size ZERO
  • 50 years ago the average American woman wore a size 8
  • A size 8 50 years ago is a size 4 or less today

Let’s paint a picture for you. There I am in the lingerie department looking for new skivvies. I know the scale made me cry a few months back, but I am just a curvy girl. Shouldn’t be a problem finding cute undies? WRONG!!! As I cruise the aisles, I look for some cute designs and find that I fit in the measurements for 3XL underwear. Begrudgingly I grab a pack and try them on. My jaw hit the floor with they didn’t FIT!!!! I mean come on. I have put on a few pounds, but I don’t wear a XXXL in anything. Heck, I dont wear a XXL in anything! You know how embarrassing it was to have to go to the mall to get undies because my butt was too big?

What I don’t get is that society seems to be ok with men getting bigger and bigger, but if a woman is little bigger she has to make the walk of shame to the big girl store.  I am only 2 sizes bigger than the “average” American woman. So why is it that a man that is almost 3 TIMES the size of the average man can still shop for undies in a regular department store. How is this not crazy???

Those figures from WebMd  should really open your eyes. As we are making things smaller and smaller, our population gets bigger. Hmmmm, is there maybe a connection? I don’t think it’s just the super sized meals that are making our butts grow. How many of you head for the fridge when you feel bad? (Raises hand) Maybe because we spend less time loving who we are RIGHT NOW, we end up feeding our emotions and thus getting bigger!

So all you ladies out there that suffer from big buttasaurus like I do, we need to stand up and revolt! Do you suffer from it or you rock it? I plan on rocking it, and showing those small panties how they can kiss my butt!

Dear Welfare Mother

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I first just wanted to say that this isn’t applicable to all mothers on welfare. At one point in my life, I too have been a mother on welfare. The system helped my family when we had little to no income, and allowed us to stand back on our own two feet. That is what the system is for. This letter is written to the welfare mother that is irresponsible, and a leach upon society and anyone that happens to get sucked in by her.

Dear Welfare Mother:

I just wanted to take the time to thank you. I wanted to thank you for all the ulcers that I am accumulating for bearing your load. I wanted to thank you for ruining the lives of children that have never even met you. I wanted to thank you for being completely irresponsible with your life and your body, which ends up not just costing your children, but costing those that are graced with your presence.

I did want to get a little bit of clarification on a few things. First off, why as a single mother wouldn’t you make sure that you only have the amount of children that you can afford? I understand that people get pregnant by accident. It happens. What I don’t understand is when you have two children already, why are you not making sure that you don’t get pregnant a third, let alone a fourth time. Your relationships are non-existant or falling down around you. Are children how you fill this gap? This is an awful lot of pressure for a child.

Don’t get me wrong I understand that it takes two to tango, but at what point do you take control of your life and not bring anymore children in the world that others have to pay for? I was a single mother once, and you can guarantee I was making sure that I wasn’t going to bring another child in this world. Frankly, even though I would love to have more kids with my husband, we have chosen not to because unlike you we are responsible. We don’t have children we can’t afford.

You live off of others, but yet have the audacity to gripe that your only existence is toting children to and from school. That must be a nice existence, but it’s not something I can afford because over 70% of your child’s support comes from my family.

As if that weren’t icing on the cake, you also expect fathers to foot the expense to see their own children. It’s not your fault you are broke, right? It’s not your fault that you can’t afford to even pull your 50% of raising a child.

Just as with dead beat dads, parenting is a two way street. It’s neither 100% financial nor 100% parenting. It’s your obligation to parent AND to support your children. Why do you cast that obligation so easily on others that work so hard?

I hope that someday you come to see the error of your ways, and that those lessons are passed upon your children. If not, we may just have a generation of welfare mothers that breed more that think its ok not to make your own way. You are completely capable to support yourself, so why do you not have pride enough in yourself to do it?

Sincerely,

Family that you are putting in the poor house

 

Do YOU know what’s in your food? New GMO bill presented in Congress

GMO, if you aren’t familiar with the term it means genetically modified organism. Foods that are made from GMOs have been genetically altered by using bacteria and other means to alter the DNA of a plant or organism.

Advocates against the GMO wave of foods, are fearful of what effect these altered foods may have on our populations health. It is also of concern because once a crop or plant has been “contaminated” with the altered DNA it changes our ecosystem. You can’t undo this genetic spreading, which in itself is a really scary thought.

My family and I have been trying to eat a little more healthily lately, so we have been reading more labels. Specifically we have been trying to avoid foods that contain GMOs. I figured it had to be labelled as such, right? Wrong!! There currently is no governmental law requiring companies to disclose if they are using genetically modified foods.

Personally, I thought that food labels were supposed to empower consumers and give them the ability to know what they are eating. Labels, such as organics, are strictly monitored so why aren’t GMOs?

Naysayers against labels are touting that it would cause packaging costs to go up. Even if that were true, isn’t it the consumer that the cost is passed down to anyway. If we, the consumer, want the labels why is cost then an issue.

There are so many things put in foods nowadays that aren’t the best thing for you; dyes, artificial sweetner, and now genetically modified foods. Even if you are eating whole foods there is no way to tell if what you are eating has been modified. Most corn and soybeans produced in the United States now contain some form of genetically altered DNA.

I find that a little bit scary, ok not a little but, a whole lot of scary. My children already have medical conditions so I have to be picky about what they eat. How can I do that when the labels don’t really TELL me what’s it is made of.

For me, it’s all about transparency. If bills hadn’t been passed for allergens in foods, it would be virtually impossible to feed my daughter. Why can’t the food industry have the same transparency with genetically altered food. It’s not even a question if they are “good” or “bad” for you. It’s an argument of consumers having enough knowledge about what’s in their food to make an educated decision.

I really hope that this bill passes, so that families can know what they are eating. In our family, it would definitely put our minds a little bit more at ease!

What about your family? How do you feel about GMOs? Are you fr or against this bill?

Dear Deadbeat Dad

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Dear Deadbeat Dad:

I just wanted to thank you for donating DNA to the two beautiful girls that I am blessed to have in my life, but I did want to clarify just a few points to make sure you understand your place.

Donating said DNA doesn’t make you a daddy, it makes you a DNA donor. A daddy is someone that actually takes interest in their children’s lives. Someone that is there to hear about their joys, share their hopes, and protect them from their fears. A deadbeat dad only cares to share in those things to make himself feel more important, or to cling on to that “father of the year” mentality that he so graciously gave himself.

Let’s talk a little bit about that term “deadbeat dad.” Usually people think about it as someone that doesn’t pay child support, while that is certainly true, paying child support doesn’t relieve you from this title either. Pretending to care by calling on birthdays, not remembering how old your children are, or what grades they are in qualifies you for this title too! Breaking the hearts of the children that, for a time, so dearly wanted nothing more than your attention makes you a dead beat dad. Lest us not kid yourself otherwise.

Now that we have that all clarified, I just have a few questions for you. First of all, when do you think it’s going to hit you that it’s really not necessary for you to call your children on Father’s Day. They are of the age that if they wanted to call you, trust me, they would. There were years that the girls loved making you cards, sending you letters, and calling your phone, but I am afraid those times have passed. Those times have been squashed by all the things you promised and didn’t deliver. All the times you “meant” to call, but didn’t. Let’s not forget all those times that you forgot to ask anything about what might be going on in your children’s lives.

Don’t you worry your pretty little head though. Your daughters are doing fine. They are turning into amazingly strong, vibrant young women. They truly would make you proud at how they have learned to be honest and live with integrity. They have also learned what a family is, and what a family isn’t. They’ve learned to be brave admist a life of heartbreak, and that they deserve only the best despite what some may give them.

You can actually be proud and take credit for most of these lessons, for they learned them from you. They’ve learned them from watching how you don’t live and what you are not. They’ve learned these traits and how to stay strong despite them. For this, we all thank you. It has made the girls better people, and stronger each and every day.

So while you are reading this I truly hope that you know they are ok, and have a family by their side. We hope that one day you get to see just how being a deadbeat dad can change a child’s life.

Sincerely,

The Mother of your Childrendeadbeat dad

***RANT*** Collection Vultures: Even When You Pay On Time It’s Not Good Enough

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******WARNING THIS IS A RANT AND MAY CONTAIN SWEAR WORDS**********

Words cannot even describe the anger and frustration I am feeling right now. I take that back there is a word, PISSED OFF! I don’t use that word lightly when I am writing, but that is the only thing I can come up with.

Let me tell you a little story to help you understand why I am seeing red right now!

About 3 years ago, almost right after my family moved to Indiana for a job, my husband was laid off. I had just had knee surgery, with $3000 worth of co-pays. We had some credit card debt, cell phone bills, and other bills that we could no longer pay. In attempts to survive, several bills went unpaid because at that point we were just hoping to have a roof over our heads.

I didn’t have a job at the time, because we had recently decided I would come back home to be with the kids. There we sat with absolutely NO income! It took weeks for unemployment to kick in, and it was from the mere kindness of friends and family that we survived those first few months. Our credit took a horrible hit over the 12 months that my husband was unemployed.

Fast forward a year later. My husband was able to get a job, and we started assessing the damage. We called EVERY SINGLE CREDITOR that we owed money to and started making payments. I won’t lie we did contemplate bankruptcy, but being the stubborn woman I am I didn’t want to go that route. If it took me $5 bucks a month to each bill we were going to pay it all back.

EVERY payment arrangement we made that year we have kept! Slowly but surely we have been able to pay off medical bills, credit cards, and other bad debts. That is why today I was so extremely ticked when I found out some aggravating news.

I had a cell phone bill with Verizon Wireless that went bad during this time. My bill was over $1000 ($700 of that was from disconnect line fees), and off it went to collections. I made arrangements with the collections agency to pay this bill, and they have been drafting the agreed upon payment STRAIGHT FROM MY CHECKING ACCOUNT for over 2 years!!!!!!! When my payment didn’t come out this month, I found it a little odd and decided to give the collections agency a call.

My jaw hit the floor and my blood pressure began to rise when the collector told me that Verizon Wireless had recalled the debt, EVEN THOUGH I PAID ON TIME AND PAID OVER 85% of the balance, and that I needed to call Verizon.

Off I set to call Verizon ready to do battle, when the news got worse. Not only had Verizon Wireless recalled my debt, they sent it to ANOTHER collection agency that charged me MORE COLLECTION FEES!!!! That is total and utter bull shit! Like I told the operator, I could have very easily have filed bankruptcy on the debt and just walked away. They wouldn’t have gotten a penny, but I didn’t! My husband and I have stuck it out and plugged away at the balance.

I know these companies are in the line of making money, but where exactly do they get off. When exactly does paying your payment arrangements on time mean it’s STILL NOT GOOD ENOUGH. It is no wonder that millions of American file bankruptcy every year. We couldn’t help that my husband lost his job, but we still took responsibility for our obligations when we were able. Yet we are still getting punished by corporations like VERIZON WIRELESS.

Even though the vultures wanted more money, I am  happy to say that the story does have a happy ending. The agent I spoke with, Ashley, was actually extremely helpful. When I told her what had happened, and the fact that I could pay the remaining $100 TODAY she was happy to help me. She’s even sending me a paid in full letter.

The best part is that the collection agencies lost over $300 in collection fees! All I had to do was pay the balance owed to Verizon. Take that vultures!

A giant shame, shame to large corporations like VERIZON WIRELESS that squash the little guy and decide that even when you are paying your collections on time that is not good enough.

Have you ever had this happen to you? How would this make you feel? Leave comments so the corporations can see how people feel about their collections practices.

What’s wrong with your face?

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“What’s wrong with your face?”

“Did someone get into the poison ivy?”

“Oh no, what happenned?”

Sounds like something some uncouth kid might say, right? Nope, these are questions asked by grown adults. These questions were asked by adults about a child, my child, right in front of her face.

While helping me at the farmer’s market today, my daughter, Bayla, had three “adults” ask her about her face and then again when we went to pick up pizza at Little Caesars. What in the heck were these people thinking? Could you imagine walking up to an adult and asking them what’s “wrong” with their face? In some twisted way, I am sure these people meant to come from a place of concern, but when does satisfying your morbid curiosity become more important than honoring feelings of a child.

My beautiful daughter Bayla has been suffering from severe skin conditions all of her life. Unfortunately, in October of last year, her skin went from bad to worse when she developed psoriasis. Her skin is hot, inflamed and itchy everywhere. There are some days she can’t even manage to pull herself out of bed because she scratched all night and didn’t sleep. Almost every day of her life is full of pain, and once a week that pain includes shots in her tummy to try and get her skin to feel better. She musters all of her strength to get through it all and not feel sorry for herself.

She is the most beautiful little soul in the world, and most people couldn’t imagine the pain she lives with on a daily basis. So why should she have to worry about going out in public and getting teased.

Because her condition is on her face, we have talked about kids saying mean things. I have to admit that she was ill prepared for the questions she faced today. It didn’t even cross my mind that adults would be stupid enough to say the awful things that she heard today. Frankly, I was speechless that not one but FOUR people asked her this over the course of the day.

Each time Bayla was asked about her face she very calmly explained that she has psoriasis and that there is nothing wrong with her face. I was very proud, but it’s rather pathetic that a 9 year old can handle herself with more grace than people that are old enough to know better.

After a long hard day she had today, Bayla turned to me and said, “Mommy, you know what? I know what I am going to say next time someone asks me what is wrong with my face. I will say I have psoriasis and the doctor is going to fix my face, but you can’t fix stupid.”

Oh, out of the mouth of babes!

 

 

New York Mayor bans large drinks, but still approves of milkshakes

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New York Mayor Bans Soda

Update: I am sad to share that this ridiculousness has actually become law in the Big Apple. Restriction has never been a healthy weight loss option. The cup may be smaller but they aren’t limiting the quantity that people can buy. This is absolutely absurd, and though we need to win the battle of the bulge I think it will do very little for the expanding waist line of New York City. If you hadn’t read this story before, read the original story below to see what it’s all about!
New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg has set out on his crusade against soda. Concerned with the ever growing waistline of the New York population, he has declared the era of the over sized soda is coming to an end.

The New York mayor bans soda to help save New Yorkers everywhere. At least his will if his plan passes to get rid of any sodas over 16 ounces in the big apple. Goodbye Big Gulp, bye bye Bubba Keg. Their sugar reign may be coming to an end, but wait what about all the other super high calories drinks on the market? Well, let’s just take a look!

This new anti-soda crusade doesn’t include things like alcoholic beverages, 100% fruit juice drinks, or products made with 51% milk products. (Hello, milkshakes) Soda is bad, but uber sized milkshakes are ok, really??!! Something is definitely wrong with this picture. Let’s just see how they  measure up!

McDonald’s McCafe Chocolate Shake (22 oz) 870 calories
McDonald’s Large Coca-Cola (21 oz) 210 calories
100% Welch’s Grape Juice (22 oz) 1132 calories
Absolute Vodka Dirty Martini (21 oz) 1330 calories

When we compare apples to apples, soda is the LEAST of New York City’s problems. Of course soda is empty calories, but so are alcoholic bevarages. Don’t see Mayor Bloomberg going for another era of prohibition in the name sake of weight loss. Someone would have to drink four times the amount of soda in order to equal the calories in one milkshake! Even though juice is “healthy” you would have to drink almost six times as many glasses of soda to equal the calories in a 22 ounce glass of juice. Crazy, right?!?

What do you guys think? Do you think NYC is picking on soda or do you think it’s time that something was done? What would you ban in addition to soda if you were Mayor?

 

Sources:
New York Times
McDonald’s
Reuter’s
My Fitness Pal