When having the “talk” with your daughter, sometimes it can feel as awkward for you as you think it is for her.
I remember the first time I talked about it with my daughter. She hadn’t asked yet, but was showing signs of starting puberty. I didn’t want her to be scared or uninformed about it if she did start.
The first time I brought it up, there were butterflies in my stomach and I fumbled with my words. It wasn’t my most eloquent talk with her. When she didn’t ask any questions I was glad it was over.
A little while after, I got to thinking about it. I did NOT want her to have the experience with puberty that I had. My mom didn’t talk to me about it and I felt awkward and alone when I started. Like I told you last month I was so embarrassed I wrote a note to my mom to tell her I started. Even worse I missed out on swimming with dolphins in the Bahamas because I had no idea how to use a tampon.
This idea gave me the courage and confidence to be more open and honest with my daughter next time we talked. Here are just a few tips that helped our next talk go well.
Don’t act like its something to be embarrassed about. What women go through is nothing to be ashamed of.
Don’t expect to have all the answers. If you dont know hit the Internet and look it up together.
Don’t think silence is ackward. Sometimes she might just be thinking of what questions to ask.
Do encourage your daughter to talk to you, and stress that NO question is too embarrassing to ask. This really encourages open and honest dialogue, so she may be more apt to come to you with even bigger questions later in life.
Trust your own instincts. You know your own daughter better than anyone else. Don’t rely on schools and physicians to educate her about her body. That’s her mom’s job!
These are just some tips to help you get the conversation going, but only you will know when the time is right and what to say.
Trust me, my best friend just complimented me on how mature my eldest was. She was recently spending the night at her house and my daughter spoke open and honestly about her period, which surprised my friend. It was great to hear all of our talks made my daughter comfortable enough about her body that she can now talk to trusted female adults about this usually uncomfortable subject.
Give it a shot! What tip are you excited to try next time you talk to your daughter about that time of the month?
I wrote this review while participating in a Brand Ambassador Campaign by Mom Central Consulting on behalf of U by KotexTween and received products to facilitate my post and a promotional item to thank me for taking the time to participate.