Did you read the title of this post and get butterflies in your stomach? I know I did the first time I realized that I needed to talk to my daughter about her body. When my daughter was really little, like 5 or 6, we had the kid version of the birds and the bees talk. As I started noticing changes in her body, acne, greasy hair, and chest development, I knew it was time to have the talk with her about her period.
THE FIRST TALK WITH MY DAUGHTER
The first talk was rather nerve racking, but over the years I got better with practice. Because my daughter was developing earlier than I did, I had to pull her aside to talk before she was really ready to ask questions. The last thing I wanted to happen was for her to get her first period and have no idea what was going on! How scary!
When I realized it was time to talk, I just waited for a time that my daughter and I were alone. The first talk, I just pulled off the band aid and started talking. Stumbling over my words, I was a nervous wreck. My daughter seemed to understand what I was saying, but she was too shy to ask any questions. Talk about feeling like a complete failure.
LET HER KNOW YOU ARE THERE TO ANSWER HER QUESTIONS
Over the next couple of months, I would just pop in and ask if she had thought of any questions yet. Most of the time she would say no, but every now and then she would ask me a question or too. It was really important for me to let her know that I am always available to answer questions, and no question was too silly or embarrassing.
We were one of the lucky ones, by talking a little bit over the years, we were able to let our daughter understand the changes her body was going through and that is not something to be embarrassed about. When she actually started her first period, because all three of our children share a bathroom, we had a family meeting to discuss the changes they would see. (We asked our daughter’s permission first of course) This made it easier to explain to the younger kids, and helped us having to explain what all “that stuff” in the garbage can was.
To make our talk a little fun, the last talk we had I gave my daughter a cute little makeup bag that she can keep a few pads, some lip gloss, and band aids just in case she needs them. She thought it was so cute!
5 TIPS TO MAKE TALKING TO YOUR DAUGHTER ABOUT HER PERIOD GO SMOOTHLY
Ready to have the talk with your child? Follow these five easy tips to make sure your talk goes smoothly.
1. Talk at a time when your daughter and you are already doing something together. This will help break the ice!
2. Make sure that you don’t pressure her to ask question, just let her know that you are there. Eventually she WILL have questions and come to you.
3. Emphasize that there is nothing to be embarrased about. Even share how you found out about your first period so she can relate.
4. It’s ok to break the talk up. Sometime too much information too soon is a bad thing. If she’s hesitant to talk, break it up into different talks. That way she doesn’t feel forced to talk about this sensitive subject.
5. Make it fun! Make her a great gift to get the talk rolling, or take her shopping for her first bra. This will be a great segway to talk further into the subject!
There you have how our family made it through our first period talk, plus great tips to make yours easier too! How did you talk to your daughters about their first cycle? What tips can you share for other readers?
I wrote this review while participating in a Brand Ambassador Campaign by Mom Central Consulting on behalf of U by KotexTween and received products to facilitate my post and a promotional item to thank me for taking the time to participate.