I first just wanted to say that this isn’t applicable to all mothers on welfare. At one point in my life, I too have been a mother on welfare. The system helped my family when we had little to no income, and allowed us to stand back on our own two feet. That is what the system is for. This letter is written to the welfare mother that is irresponsible, and a leach upon society and anyone that happens to get sucked in by her.
Dear Welfare Mother:
I just wanted to take the time to thank you. I wanted to thank you for all the ulcers that I am accumulating for bearing your load. I wanted to thank you for ruining the lives of children that have never even met you. I wanted to thank you for being completely irresponsible with your life and your body, which ends up not just costing your children, but costing those that are graced with your presence.
I did want to get a little bit of clarification on a few things. First off, why as a single mother wouldn’t you make sure that you only have the amount of children that you can afford? I understand that people get pregnant by accident. It happens. What I don’t understand is when you have two children already, why are you not making sure that you don’t get pregnant a third, let alone a fourth time. Your relationships are non-existant or falling down around you. Are children how you fill this gap? This is an awful lot of pressure for a child.
Don’t get me wrong I understand that it takes two to tango, but at what point do you take control of your life and not bring anymore children in the world that others have to pay for? I was a single mother once, and you can guarantee I was making sure that I wasn’t going to bring another child in this world. Frankly, even though I would love to have more kids with my husband, we have chosen not to because unlike you we are responsible. We don’t have children we can’t afford.
You live off of others, but yet have the audacity to gripe that your only existence is toting children to and from school. That must be a nice existence, but it’s not something I can afford because over 70% of your child’s support comes from my family.
As if that weren’t icing on the cake, you also expect fathers to foot the expense to see their own children. It’s not your fault you are broke, right? It’s not your fault that you can’t afford to even pull your 50% of raising a child.
Just as with dead beat dads, parenting is a two way street. It’s neither 100% financial nor 100% parenting. It’s your obligation to parent AND to support your children. Why do you cast that obligation so easily on others that work so hard?
I hope that someday you come to see the error of your ways, and that those lessons are passed upon your children. If not, we may just have a generation of welfare mothers that breed more that think its ok not to make your own way. You are completely capable to support yourself, so why do you not have pride enough in yourself to do it?
Sincerely,
Family that you are putting in the poor house
About Ashley Sears
Again, just so much judgment and sheer ignorance here. And finger-pointing.
Enjoy the view from up on your high horse. Hopefully, you’ll never suffer a fall from it down into the muck with the rest of us.
But aren’t you yelling at for judging while you are judging me. You don’t know my story either. I have been on Welfare, I have been in this situation so I think it gives me a right to my opinion. Sorry we don’t agree, but tis life
I feel this post. Around 35% of our income goes into taxes and we live in the same apartments as several of these people who are drawing that money into their own homes. Sometimes I wonder if it’d be easier to walk over and hand the woman with 4 kids and no job nearby a big check each month. Back to getting our cheap dinner ready. Thanks for being brave enough to post this.
Thanks, for sharing your story. It is hard. I think the message is getting lost in the anger a lot people are feeling from this post. Our system is meant to help. BOTH parents are meant to support their kids.
I have to agree with you 110%! …
My Husband and I were on assistance (though only for a month, to help us keep out head above the water) it was RIDICULOUS the hoops we had to jump through to get the financial help we needed …. these hoops are necessary due to all the people abusing the system. it’s utterly APPALLING sitting in that welfare office, with all the skeevy people, reeking of either Cigarette smoke, Marijuana smoke, or Alcohol… (usually a combination of more than one)here I am needing money to feed my children (My Husband suffered a serious back injury weeks after we found out I was pregnant, and he wasn’t eligible for EI) …and yet, people who choose not to have a job to support their vice’s taking money from respectable, taxpaying citizens wallets instead. …. JUST GRR. I feel your frustration, believe me… also, You should note… There is CERTAINLY such a thing as a deadbeat mom as well … it’s much less heard of, but something I am personally dealing with myself, so I know it happens …
Krystl, Thanks for taking the time to respond. It’s good to know someone else that has experienced the system themselves can see my point. Asking for assistance is very humbling, and I get that, but at some point we need to help ourselves. Though this mom is the exception rather than the rule.
Very well said. Sometimes it seems that the people on assistance live way better than we do. We do not have iPhones, ipads, or any other gadgets and I see all these people on assistance with those luxuries. I really do not care about those things but all I can think about is what I could do with $500 that they choose to spend on those items that aren’t necessites.
There have been times, especially when laid off, I have had to rely on food stamps to get by. I always made it a temporary thing, and just to help, even if it was in a tiny way, I would volunteer somewhere to give back to the community. Whether it was sorting clothes in a clothing bank or working in a small teen’s cafe for nothing. If someone lends me a hand, i return the favor. These mothers that are having several children to get a bigger check should be required to do some sort of community service if they are not working. Im not judging, I’ve been in bad times and i have seen others in worse times. I just think that there should be some give back to our system. Maybe it would make it easier on everyone in the long run. Thanks Crunchy for the great topic! I hope it gets a lot of people thinking in a positive way. Who knows? Maybe this will start something big and great!