Dear Deadbeat Dad:
I just wanted to thank you for donating DNA to the two beautiful girls that I am blessed to have in my life, but I did want to clarify just a few points to make sure you understand your place.
Donating said DNA doesn’t make you a daddy, it makes you a DNA donor. A daddy is someone that actually takes interest in their children’s lives. Someone that is there to hear about their joys, share their hopes, and protect them from their fears. A deadbeat dad only cares to share in those things to make himself feel more important, or to cling on to that “father of the year” mentality that he so graciously gave himself.
Let’s talk a little bit about that term “deadbeat dad.” Usually people think about it as someone that doesn’t pay child support, while that is certainly true, paying child support doesn’t relieve you from this title either. Pretending to care by calling on birthdays, not remembering how old your children are, or what grades they are in qualifies you for this title too! Breaking the hearts of the children that, for a time, so dearly wanted nothing more than your attention makes you a dead beat dad. Lest us not kid yourself otherwise.
Now that we have that all clarified, I just have a few questions for you. First of all, when do you think it’s going to hit you that it’s really not necessary for you to call your children on Father’s Day. They are of the age that if they wanted to call you, trust me, they would. There were years that the girls loved making you cards, sending you letters, and calling your phone, but I am afraid those times have passed. Those times have been squashed by all the things you promised and didn’t deliver. All the times you “meant” to call, but didn’t. Let’s not forget all those times that you forgot to ask anything about what might be going on in your children’s lives.
Don’t you worry your pretty little head though. Your daughters are doing fine. They are turning into amazingly strong, vibrant young women. They truly would make you proud at how they have learned to be honest and live with integrity. They have also learned what a family is, and what a family isn’t. They’ve learned to be brave admist a life of heartbreak, and that they deserve only the best despite what some may give them.
You can actually be proud and take credit for most of these lessons, for they learned them from you. They’ve learned them from watching how you don’t live and what you are not. They’ve learned these traits and how to stay strong despite them. For this, we all thank you. It has made the girls better people, and stronger each and every day.
So while you are reading this I truly hope that you know they are ok, and have a family by their side. We hope that one day you get to see just how being a deadbeat dad can change a child’s life.